Growing up as a child with my friends,we virtually loved doing things together and had almost everything in common with them, same toys, same classes and so on.I adored them but then Torrei always behaved a bit awkward from the rest of us.Better put, she never wanted to associate with us, loved playing alone especially with her puzzle games which she loved very much.

This and other things made it difficult to be around her, not until we got much older and we were made to understand that she was autistic.Not only did I feel bad for not bringing out time to have given her the love she deserved, I wished she had stayed longer with us for me to have done that, their family had relocated somewhere far from us.
There’s every possibility that we will encounter an autistic person at some point in our lives, as 1 in 70 persons have been said to be autistic.

AUTISM
It is actually called Autism Spectrum Disorder(ASD).From the word spectrum,it’s easy to say that it’s severity of symptoms differ amongst each person.Autism Spectrum Disorder is a complex neurological developmental disability that affects a person’s social activities, communication, interactions and relationships.As said earlier,the severity and manner of disability varies widely amongst individuals.

HOW CAN ONE BE SAID TO BE AUTISTIC?
Actually, there are no specific tests to diagnose one of autism, but there are a group of behaviours that suggest autism.People who have autism exhibit several kind of behaviours according to their environment and other factors, some of these behaviours include but not restricted to:
• Rare eye contact
• Resistance to change
• Love for isolation
• Insistence on monotony
• Fear especially of danger
• Difficulty in associatting with others
• Repetition of words or phrases instead of normal speech
• Display of tantrums
• Facial expressions that does not match with their feelings.
• Obsessive behaviours and interests

HOW TO EFFECTIVELY COPE WITH AUTISTIC CHILDREN AND ADULTS
We as humans are social beings and learning to deal with emotionally challenged persons can be a difficult one.Basically, no one is easy to deal with, and especially as a parent, your goal should be to strive to make your child happy and healthy at all times if possible.
First of all,it’s important to note that they need our love, understanding and care more than we can think of.

• Giving them the affirmation and reassurance sometimes does it.Most times, we can avoid the judgement of behaviours,resentment and all.

• Being patient with them.Autistic persons need that freedom to do what they really want, denial of that brings about the negative behaviours associated with their disability.

• Try explaining to them that some things that happen to them, be it divorce, death of a loved one, etc isn’t their fault or the result of what they did most times.

• Staying connected with them can help them become aware of your support for them,especially when you participate in what they love doing the most.